I am fed-up of living alone in love - I want/need someone to share my wealth with. I want to travel the world and share the beauty of nature with someone that I love and in love with.
I want to laugh with someone who can feel my laughter.
It is difficult to enjoy the beauty of this world without someone to enjoy it with.
Life was meant to be enjoyed and journey with someone beside you and you beside them.
Living life alone is a terrible and boring
“What if I were smiling and running into your arms? Would you see then what I see now?”
― Jon Krakauer, Into the Wild
You can be in the middle of a huge crowd and still be alone,
You can be in a new or long term relationship and still be lonely,
You can live a big house with a big family and still be lonely;
You can be lying beside your husband and still be lonely.
Loneliness is not being alone. It is the perception of isolation from others. For instance, even in a long term relationship or surrounded by people, you may still feel like no one really knows you. This is loneliness.
Christopher McCandless: What if I were smiling and running into your arms? Would you see then what I see now?
We all feel lonely sometimes. It’s a cue that we need to reach out to someone. It only becomes a problem when you get stuck in the loneliness trap, and don’t make personal contact with others.
“Loneliness becomes an issue of serious concern only when it settles in long enough to create a persistent, self-reinforcing loop of negative thoughts, sensations, and behaviors.” ~ John Cacioppo
There is a pleasure in the pathless woods; / There is a rapture on the lonely shore; / There is society, where none intrudes, / By the deep sea, and music in its roar; / I love not man the less, but Nature more... / - Lord Byron
Christopher McCandless: The sea's only gifts are harsh blows, and occasionally the chance to feel strong. Now I don't know much about the sea, but I do know that that's the way it is here. And I also know how important it is in life not necessarily to be strong but to feel strong. To measure yourself at least once. To find yourself at least once in the most ancient of human conditions. Facing the blind death stone alone, with nothing to help you but your hands and your own head.
“Some people feel like they don't deserve love. They walk away quietly into empty spaces, trying to close the gaps of the past.” ― Jon Krakauer, Into the Wild
Can anyone understand how it is to have lived in the White House and then, suddenly, to be living alone as the President's widow? - Jackie Kennedy
“You are wrong if you think Joy emanates only...from human relationships. God has placed it all around us...and all you have to do is reach for it.” ― Jon Krakauer, Into the Wild
Pray that your loneliness may spur you into finding something to live for, great enough to die for.- Dag Hammarskjold
“But somethings in life are more important than being happy. Like being free to think for yourself.” ― Jon Krakauer
In a study of nearly 3,500 men and women ages 30 to 65, researchers in Finland found that people who lived alone were more likely that their peers to receive a prescription for antidepressant drugs. One quarter of people living alone filled an antidepressant prescription during the seven-year study, compared to just 16% of those who lived with spouses, family, or roommates. -http://edition.cnn.com/2012/03/23/health/living-alone-depression/index.html
“Sometimes he tried too hard to make sense of the world, to figure out why people were bad to each other so often.” ― Jon Krakauer, Into the Wild
"Living alone may be considered a mental-health risk factor," says lead author Laura Pulkki-Råback, Ph.D., a lecturer at the University of Helsinki's Institute of Behavioral Sciences. The study was published today in the journal BMC Public Health.
We're all lonely for something we don't know we're lonely for. How else to explain the curious feeling that goes around feeling like missing somebody we've never even met? -- David Foster Wallace
I read somewhere... how important it is in life not necessarily to be strong, but to feel strong... to measure yourself at least once.― Jon Krakauer, Into the Wild
If you are alone you belong entirely to yourself....If you are accompanied by even one companion you belong only half to yourself, or even less, in proportion to the thoughtlessness of his conduct; and if you have more than one companion you will fall more deeply into the same plight. - Leonardo da Vinci
The loneliest it gets is when the wind begins to chill and when I sit atop of your old street, the church top brings a still ness to me, there's nothingI would rather do, than have my heart broken by you.- Lifetime
There's a cold wind blowing softly through a narrow, dark ravine. A sound is heard, soft and everywhere, like the rustle of silk. It echoes from every dismal reaching corner of the abyss, and whispers of the aching loneliness within the crevasse. A cold, blue-white light transcends an aura of weird lifelessness to the jagged rocks of the cleft walls. There appears a soul within all of this, like a thin frail mist, congealing within its center -- a tiny translucent gray cloud. - Ralph Kenyon, 1962
Living alone has its charm and should not be underestimated. There is something supremely liberating about not having to answer to anyone and living your life exactly how you want to. Whether you have a roommate, partner or spouse, the decision to live alone has a number of benefits. Here are 8 reasons why I like living alone.
Time takes it all, whether you want it to or not. Time takes it all, time bears it away, and in the end there is only darkness. Sometimes we find others in that darkness, and sometimes we lose them there again.- Stephen King, "The Green Mile" ( ? )
“The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.” ― Jon Krakauer
Theres nothing terribly wrong with feeling lost, so long as that feeling precedes some plan on your part to actually do something about it. Too often a person grows complacent with their disillusionment, perpetually wearing their "discomfort" like a favorite shirt. - Jhonen Vasquez
To dare to live alone is the rarest courage; since there are many who had rather meet their bitterest enemy in the field, than their own hearts in their closet. - Charles Caleb Colton
We're all lonely for something we don't know we're lonely for. How else to explain the curious feeling that goes around feeling like missing somebody we've never even met? - David Foster Wallace
The end comes when we no longer talk with ourselves. It is the end of genuine thinking and the beginning of the final loneliness. The remarkable thing is that the cessation of the inner dialogue marks also the end of our concern with the world around us. It is as if we noted the world and think about it only when we have to report it to ourselves. - Eric Hoffer
I know the night is not the same as the day: that all things are different, that the things of the night cannot be explained in the day, because they do not then exist, and the night can be a dreadful time for lonely people once their loneliness has started.- Ernest Hemingway, "A Farewell To Arms" ( ? )
At the innermost core of all loneliness is a deep and powerful yearning for union with one's lost self.
Brendan Francis
I've been living by myself for 18 months, because when you're in your mid-30s, life without flatmates is easier and simpler for everything except playing SingStar. But it can be tough adjusting to a solo existence, which is why I've prepared this invaluable guide.
A woman who is willing to be herself and pursue her own potential runs not so much the risk of loneliness, as the challenge of exposure to more interesting men - and people in general. - Lorraine Hansberry
The whole conviction of my life now rests upon the belief that loneliness, far from being a rare and curious phenomenon, peculiar to myself and to a few other solitary men, is the central and inevitable fact of human existence. - Thomas Wolfe
I have been thinking more and more that I shall always be a lone wanderer of the wilderness. God, how the trail lures me. You cannot comprehend its resistless fascinatioin for me. After all, the lone trail is the best…I’ll never stop wandering. And when time comes to die, I’ll find the wildest, loneliest, most desolate spot there is. --Everett Ruess
“Everett was a loner, but he liked people too damn much to stay down there and live in secret the rest of his life. A lot of us are like that: We like companionship, see, but we can’t stand to be around people for very long. So we go get ourselves lost, come back for awhile, then get the hell out again.”
- Ken Sleight talking about Everett Ruess
It is easy when you are young, to believe that what you desire is no less than what you deserve, to assume that if you want something badly enough, it is your God-given right to have it. When I decided to go to Alaska that April, like Chris McCandless, I was a raw youth who mistook passion for insight and acted according to an obscure, gap-ridden logic. I thought climbing Devils Thumb would fix all that was wrong with my life. In the end, of course, it changed almost nothing. But I came to appreciate that mountains make poor receptacles for dreams.”
“He is mad about being small when you were big, but no, that’s not it, he is mad about being helpless when you were powerful, but no, not that either, he is mad about being contingent when you were necessary, not quite it, he is insane because when he loved you, you didn’t notice.” - Donald Barthelme “The Dead Father”
Think of our life in nature- daily to be shown matter, to come in contact with it – rocks, trees, wind on our cheeks! the solid earth! the actual world! the common sense! Contact! Contact! Who are we? where are we? - H.D.Thoreau. Ktaadn
For most of life, nothing wonderful happens. If you don't enjoy getting up and working and finishing your work and sitting down to a meal with family or friends, then the chances are that you're not going to be very happy. If someone bases his happiness or unhappiness on major events like a great new job, huge amounts of money, a flawlessly happy marriage or a trip to Paris, that person isn't going to be happy much of the time. If, on the other hand, happiness depends on a good breakfast, flowers in the yard, a drink or a nap, then we are more likely to live with quite a bit of happiness.- Andy Rooney
I don't want to be like this at the age - Now I am in my 40s and time seem to be running out speedily. I wake up day after day praying that someone will come along to be a companion, friend and life-long partner.
I wake up wishing for that day that that lovely and special man would walk into my life knowing that he sincerely want what I wants - Together to live happily ever after.
5 Ways to Free Yourself from the Loneliness Trap
Don’t settle in the loneliness trap. Know you can free yourself. You can break down your own barriers again and again. In Dr. Cacioppo’s book, he presents 4 steps to “EASE into social connection.”
E = Extend Yourself – Experiment with getting “small doses of positive sensations that come from social interactions.” Pick safe places to experiment, such as in public, with strangers, or volunteering. Make contact with others without expecting anything in return.
A = Action Plan – Detail how you can change your thoughts, expectations, and behaviors toward others. Knowing you can do something different is empowering.
S = Selection – Choose where to invest your social energy. Identify how many relationships you want to invest in and where you want to meet people.
E = Expect the Best – If making contact doesn’t work out each time, don’t overanalyze it. Expect the best will develop over time. Don’t get hung up on one encounter.
I’m adding #5: Interrupt Worry – When you manage your worry better, you will be more open to making meaningful contact with others, both selected and unexpected. Clear out the negative, so you can give and receive.
http://liberatingchoices.com/2011/10/17/5-ways-to-free-the-loneliness-trap/
I want to laugh with someone who can feel my laughter.
It is difficult to enjoy the beauty of this world without someone to enjoy it with.
Life was meant to be enjoyed and journey with someone beside you and you beside them.
Living life alone is a terrible and boring
“What if I were smiling and running into your arms? Would you see then what I see now?”
― Jon Krakauer, Into the Wild
You can be in the middle of a huge crowd and still be alone,
You can be in a new or long term relationship and still be lonely,
You can live a big house with a big family and still be lonely;
You can be lying beside your husband and still be lonely.
Loneliness is not being alone. It is the perception of isolation from others. For instance, even in a long term relationship or surrounded by people, you may still feel like no one really knows you. This is loneliness.
Christopher McCandless: What if I were smiling and running into your arms? Would you see then what I see now?
We all feel lonely sometimes. It’s a cue that we need to reach out to someone. It only becomes a problem when you get stuck in the loneliness trap, and don’t make personal contact with others.
“Loneliness becomes an issue of serious concern only when it settles in long enough to create a persistent, self-reinforcing loop of negative thoughts, sensations, and behaviors.” ~ John Cacioppo
There is a pleasure in the pathless woods; / There is a rapture on the lonely shore; / There is society, where none intrudes, / By the deep sea, and music in its roar; / I love not man the less, but Nature more... / - Lord Byron
Christopher McCandless: The sea's only gifts are harsh blows, and occasionally the chance to feel strong. Now I don't know much about the sea, but I do know that that's the way it is here. And I also know how important it is in life not necessarily to be strong but to feel strong. To measure yourself at least once. To find yourself at least once in the most ancient of human conditions. Facing the blind death stone alone, with nothing to help you but your hands and your own head.
“Some people feel like they don't deserve love. They walk away quietly into empty spaces, trying to close the gaps of the past.” ― Jon Krakauer, Into the Wild
Can anyone understand how it is to have lived in the White House and then, suddenly, to be living alone as the President's widow? - Jackie Kennedy
“You are wrong if you think Joy emanates only...from human relationships. God has placed it all around us...and all you have to do is reach for it.” ― Jon Krakauer, Into the Wild
Pray that your loneliness may spur you into finding something to live for, great enough to die for.- Dag Hammarskjold
“But somethings in life are more important than being happy. Like being free to think for yourself.” ― Jon Krakauer
In a study of nearly 3,500 men and women ages 30 to 65, researchers in Finland found that people who lived alone were more likely that their peers to receive a prescription for antidepressant drugs. One quarter of people living alone filled an antidepressant prescription during the seven-year study, compared to just 16% of those who lived with spouses, family, or roommates. -http://edition.cnn.com/2012/03/23/health/living-alone-depression/index.html
“Sometimes he tried too hard to make sense of the world, to figure out why people were bad to each other so often.” ― Jon Krakauer, Into the Wild
"Living alone may be considered a mental-health risk factor," says lead author Laura Pulkki-Råback, Ph.D., a lecturer at the University of Helsinki's Institute of Behavioral Sciences. The study was published today in the journal BMC Public Health.
We're all lonely for something we don't know we're lonely for. How else to explain the curious feeling that goes around feeling like missing somebody we've never even met? -- David Foster Wallace
I read somewhere... how important it is in life not necessarily to be strong, but to feel strong... to measure yourself at least once.― Jon Krakauer, Into the Wild
If you are alone you belong entirely to yourself....If you are accompanied by even one companion you belong only half to yourself, or even less, in proportion to the thoughtlessness of his conduct; and if you have more than one companion you will fall more deeply into the same plight. - Leonardo da Vinci
The loneliest it gets is when the wind begins to chill and when I sit atop of your old street, the church top brings a still ness to me, there's nothingI would rather do, than have my heart broken by you.- Lifetime
There's a cold wind blowing softly through a narrow, dark ravine. A sound is heard, soft and everywhere, like the rustle of silk. It echoes from every dismal reaching corner of the abyss, and whispers of the aching loneliness within the crevasse. A cold, blue-white light transcends an aura of weird lifelessness to the jagged rocks of the cleft walls. There appears a soul within all of this, like a thin frail mist, congealing within its center -- a tiny translucent gray cloud. - Ralph Kenyon, 1962
Living alone has its charm and should not be underestimated. There is something supremely liberating about not having to answer to anyone and living your life exactly how you want to. Whether you have a roommate, partner or spouse, the decision to live alone has a number of benefits. Here are 8 reasons why I like living alone.
Time takes it all, whether you want it to or not. Time takes it all, time bears it away, and in the end there is only darkness. Sometimes we find others in that darkness, and sometimes we lose them there again.- Stephen King, "The Green Mile" ( ? )
“The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.” ― Jon Krakauer
Theres nothing terribly wrong with feeling lost, so long as that feeling precedes some plan on your part to actually do something about it. Too often a person grows complacent with their disillusionment, perpetually wearing their "discomfort" like a favorite shirt. - Jhonen Vasquez
To dare to live alone is the rarest courage; since there are many who had rather meet their bitterest enemy in the field, than their own hearts in their closet. - Charles Caleb Colton
We're all lonely for something we don't know we're lonely for. How else to explain the curious feeling that goes around feeling like missing somebody we've never even met? - David Foster Wallace
The end comes when we no longer talk with ourselves. It is the end of genuine thinking and the beginning of the final loneliness. The remarkable thing is that the cessation of the inner dialogue marks also the end of our concern with the world around us. It is as if we noted the world and think about it only when we have to report it to ourselves. - Eric Hoffer
I know the night is not the same as the day: that all things are different, that the things of the night cannot be explained in the day, because they do not then exist, and the night can be a dreadful time for lonely people once their loneliness has started.- Ernest Hemingway, "A Farewell To Arms" ( ? )
At the innermost core of all loneliness is a deep and powerful yearning for union with one's lost self.
Brendan Francis
I've been living by myself for 18 months, because when you're in your mid-30s, life without flatmates is easier and simpler for everything except playing SingStar. But it can be tough adjusting to a solo existence, which is why I've prepared this invaluable guide.
A woman who is willing to be herself and pursue her own potential runs not so much the risk of loneliness, as the challenge of exposure to more interesting men - and people in general. - Lorraine Hansberry
The whole conviction of my life now rests upon the belief that loneliness, far from being a rare and curious phenomenon, peculiar to myself and to a few other solitary men, is the central and inevitable fact of human existence. - Thomas Wolfe
I have been thinking more and more that I shall always be a lone wanderer of the wilderness. God, how the trail lures me. You cannot comprehend its resistless fascinatioin for me. After all, the lone trail is the best…I’ll never stop wandering. And when time comes to die, I’ll find the wildest, loneliest, most desolate spot there is. --Everett Ruess
“Everett was a loner, but he liked people too damn much to stay down there and live in secret the rest of his life. A lot of us are like that: We like companionship, see, but we can’t stand to be around people for very long. So we go get ourselves lost, come back for awhile, then get the hell out again.”
- Ken Sleight talking about Everett Ruess
It is easy when you are young, to believe that what you desire is no less than what you deserve, to assume that if you want something badly enough, it is your God-given right to have it. When I decided to go to Alaska that April, like Chris McCandless, I was a raw youth who mistook passion for insight and acted according to an obscure, gap-ridden logic. I thought climbing Devils Thumb would fix all that was wrong with my life. In the end, of course, it changed almost nothing. But I came to appreciate that mountains make poor receptacles for dreams.”
“He is mad about being small when you were big, but no, that’s not it, he is mad about being helpless when you were powerful, but no, not that either, he is mad about being contingent when you were necessary, not quite it, he is insane because when he loved you, you didn’t notice.” - Donald Barthelme “The Dead Father”
Think of our life in nature- daily to be shown matter, to come in contact with it – rocks, trees, wind on our cheeks! the solid earth! the actual world! the common sense! Contact! Contact! Who are we? where are we? - H.D.Thoreau. Ktaadn
For most of life, nothing wonderful happens. If you don't enjoy getting up and working and finishing your work and sitting down to a meal with family or friends, then the chances are that you're not going to be very happy. If someone bases his happiness or unhappiness on major events like a great new job, huge amounts of money, a flawlessly happy marriage or a trip to Paris, that person isn't going to be happy much of the time. If, on the other hand, happiness depends on a good breakfast, flowers in the yard, a drink or a nap, then we are more likely to live with quite a bit of happiness.- Andy Rooney
I don't want to be like this at the age - Now I am in my 40s and time seem to be running out speedily. I wake up day after day praying that someone will come along to be a companion, friend and life-long partner.
I wake up wishing for that day that that lovely and special man would walk into my life knowing that he sincerely want what I wants - Together to live happily ever after.
5 Ways to Free Yourself from the Loneliness Trap
Don’t settle in the loneliness trap. Know you can free yourself. You can break down your own barriers again and again. In Dr. Cacioppo’s book, he presents 4 steps to “EASE into social connection.”
E = Extend Yourself – Experiment with getting “small doses of positive sensations that come from social interactions.” Pick safe places to experiment, such as in public, with strangers, or volunteering. Make contact with others without expecting anything in return.
A = Action Plan – Detail how you can change your thoughts, expectations, and behaviors toward others. Knowing you can do something different is empowering.
S = Selection – Choose where to invest your social energy. Identify how many relationships you want to invest in and where you want to meet people.
E = Expect the Best – If making contact doesn’t work out each time, don’t overanalyze it. Expect the best will develop over time. Don’t get hung up on one encounter.
I’m adding #5: Interrupt Worry – When you manage your worry better, you will be more open to making meaningful contact with others, both selected and unexpected. Clear out the negative, so you can give and receive.
http://liberatingchoices.com/2011/10/17/5-ways-to-free-the-loneliness-trap/
Thank you and God bless you
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